After being with my man for a very long time, I'm thrilled that he's finally going to put a ring on it! We're looking at next summer or even fall but it will be next year. I'm very excited about being a bride and it's fun planning our day and everything. But there's just one problem.
I was besties with someone I'd known since I was in my early twenties. We were very close. I was maid of honor when she got married. And I threw her a baby shower when she was expecting her twins. While we are still friends, I don't think we're as close as we used to be. I guess that's to be expected when the husband and kids come along. The thing is I don't feel that we're close enough now for me to ask her to be my matron for honor. I have other friends that I'm super close to and I would like to ask one of them. But I feel bad because I was her maid of honor so I feel I ought to return the favor. I would be happy to have her as a bridesmaid if she was OK with that but it just doesn't feel right having her as my maid of honor as I don't feel as though our friendship is at that stage anymore although I do still like and care about her. Otherwise this wouldn't be such an issue for me.
I'm just wondering what everyone thinks, and has anyone else been in a similar situation?
Update please Carrot! What did you decide?