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The last Quips post of the year. I'm really pleased that this year I was finally able to get Frengellica up and running after it had been a thought in my head for quite a while. Had this been an ordinary year, I probably would have talked about the highs and lows, the challenges and triumphs of my latest venture. But as we all know, 2020 has been far from ordinary - and not in a good way either. We were told the roaring twenties were returning... We're still waiting... It seems like only yesterday we were all eagerly awaiting the beginning of a new decade, and wondering what fabulous things might be coming our way. Well you don't need me to tell you that for many of us, the things we hoped for didn't quite go to plan! It has been an extraordinarily bad, mad year - and one that we hope we shall never see the likes of again. It wasn't just Covid, a lot of people had more than their share of hard luck in lots of other ways. It's just been one of those weird years where nothing seems to go right. When in say fifty or sixty years time when people look back at this year, they'll see 2020 as being the year where people felt as though they were living in a zombie apocalypse movie; toilet roll was more valuable than gold; supermarket sweep became a reality rather than a TV show; we had to stand outside our grandparents' living room window to talk to them; we had to stand outside the supermarket as though we were waiting to get into a nightclub; Zoom became a key connection to the outside world and not just the name of an ice-lolly; masks were not just for surgeons; there was a pasta famine; it was more likely to spot a UFO than hand sanitizer on a supermarket shelf; 'quarantine,' 'self-isolation,' and 'pandemic' were buzzwords; it took a pandemic for us to show the NHS our appreciation; everything from schools to offices to places of worship were closed; sporting an music events ground to a halt, and as for going on holiday - forget it! 'Home' was very much the order of the day as we were told to stay at home; most of us realised we needed a home office; our kids had to be home-schooled, and we desperately needed companies to make home deliveries. Let's not forget the whole world went banana bread crazy! And in a year that saw more death than we ever thought possible, 2020 started to resemble 2016 with a host of well-loved famous faces sadly passed away. But let's not forget that in the midst of uncertainty and despair, there was some good to come out of a year that saw much hardship and suffering caused primarily by the coronavirus. People started to reevaluate their lives, take a good look at their relationships with family and friends and decide what really mattered. People volunteered their time as best they could to help others. We used the time we were at home to rest, learn something new, exercise more or take up a hobby. We grew to appreciate the people in our lives more. We looked out for people who were vulnerable or alone, whether we knew them or not. Medical staff, supermarket staff, delivery drivers and a whole host of frontline workers became the heroes of the hour and rightly so, rather than the latest attention-seeking 'celebrity' who was famous solely for being famous. And I for one, hope that that will continue. 2020 was a year in which we saw the best and worst in humanity. It's still uncertain what next year will bring. But I'm trying to remain optimistic and hope that next year will bring much better things our way. I know that the normal we once knew may never return and whether that's a good or bad thing - who knows! But I'm keeping everything crossed that things will improve immensely for all of us. Come On 2021 - show 2020 how it should have been done! Happy new year, everyone. Wishing you all a happier, healthier, and more peaceful 2021 xx Photos: Pixabay Blog graphics: Angel Noire

We all know that this Christmas is going to be very different to any other festive period we've had. With the ever changing rules of what we can and can't do, many of us don't know whether we will get to have even a few of our loved ones around the table as we carve the turkey. In the UK, the new lockdown has already been announced meaning that families can't have the gatherings they thought they'd be able to have. But after the year we've had, the joys of Christmas and goodwill to all men seem to be the last thing on many people's minds and understandably so. However there's also a lot of people who feel that after the year we've had, we're all in need of some much needed Christmas cheer. It's going to be bad enough that we can't be with the whole family or do a lot of things that we would normally do at this time of year, so why make ourselves more miserable? Christmas will be different this year... but does 'different' always have to mean 'bad'? We don't think so. Christmas may have to be, um, modified but it doesn't have to be cancelled altogether. It's easy to focus on the things that we're unable to do. But there are still a lot of things are we can do in order to make this time of year seem special. And having something to celebrate and look forward to gives you a much need boost and helps you feel less jaded after what has been an incredibly disastrous year. So if you still have a little bit of that Christmas spirit in you and you're determined to make it the best that you can under the circumstances, there's still things you can do to have a peaceful, joyous yet socially-distanced Christmas. 1. HOLD ON TO THOSE TRADITIONS There's something so endearing and meaningful about traditions that have existed in the family for decades. You might not always have appreciated them when you were growing up but it's amazing how much meaning those traditions have when you move away or you're not able to be with your family. Family traditions bring back happy memories of childhood and family events, filling you up with that warm, fuzzy feeling. During these Covid times there are still many traditions that you can keep alive that will keep you connected to your family and help bring back memories of the good old days - great for that much needed feel-good factor. You can still put up the the nativity crib; watch your fave Christmas movies, and make your mum's famous shortbread - though admittedly it won't taste quite like hers do but it'll still be fab! 2. BAKING A LA NIGELLA! Christmas and baking go together hand-in-hand, as people look forward to all those wonderful Christmas goodies that they'll be tucking into on the day: mince pies; yule logs; Christmas cake; roast ham, not to mention a delicious array of cookies. And in the past, baking used to be a fun festive activity in which family members would get together and get stuck in. And while they were elbow-deep in cookie dough, there'd be Christmas tunes playing in the background, and lots of laughter as the family would reminisce and share stories. This year however, festive baking might not be quite the family social event it was but that doesn't mean it still can't be a fun, relaxing activity. Check out how Natalie from Hampshire, UK bakes to her heart's content: "I adore Christmas and during the festive season my favourite place to be in is the kitchen - cooking, baking, and making all kinds of amazing seasonal treats that we only get to have once a year. I do love it when friends and family come over and they all pitch in as it's always so much fun. But I also don't mind being alone in the kitchen either. I've always found baking therapeutic - it's what got me through most of this year! I turn on the fairy lights that I have draped around the windows and doors; turn on some jazz classics, and just get lost in my thoughts as I create a whole batch of Christmas goodies... Just like Nigella would!" 3. PANDEMIC-INSPIRED EVENTS When we think about events and activities we can do during corona times, we tend to think about things we can do while we're at home. But if you're fed up of staring at the same walls, the good news is that there are Covid-friendly events and activities you could participate in. You could drive around town and look at the Christmas lights and decorations that are in your neck of the woods - complete with hot cocoa! If you're lucky enough to live near a drive-in movie theatre, you might be able to catch the showing of some holiday movies. And your local ice-rink, and even ski-resort - if there's one near you - will be open for some socially-distanced fun on ice/in the snow! Go online to see what Covid-friendly events are available in your local area. You will have to book first so hopefully there will be places available. 4. GET YOUR ZOOM ON! We know - you're all Zoomed out! But while nothing beats seeing you're loved ones in person, Zoom Skype and other video calling platforms are better than nothing at all. In the pre-pandemic days, not many people bothered to cyber-connect absent friends and family members to their events a la Grammy's (I'm sorry I couldn't be there tonight...) If someone couldn't make an event, they just missed it. But now family members can just get onto any video conferencing platform and join in the fun. So even though you may not be in the same country, same city, or under the same roof, you can all sing carols together, open your presents at the same time, or get together for a slice of Christmas cake, a glass of mulled wine, and a natter. Although Covid is something we all could have done without - understatement of the year - if there is one good thing to come out of the pandemic, it's that it's normalized more than ever before getting together virtually with absent family and friends. And it's probably an aspect of Covid times that's here to stay. 5. DECK THE HALLS Nothing screams festive cheer quite like a brightly coloured Christmas decorations and lights. It's a visual reminder that it really 'tis the season and is an instant mood booster. As Eloise in Louisiana, USA says: "Like a lot of people, I really wasn't feeling Christmas this year. I wasn't interested in getting a tree or decorating the outside of the house. I was also naturally quite disappointed that we wouldn't be able to see our families this year. So I really had no interest in Christmas at all. But my adorable husband, knowing how much I love Christmas, surprised me by putting up Christmas lights in every room. I loved that warm glow that's so reminiscent of this season. It definitely lifted my spirits and made me look forward to Christmas more. I may not be going 'overboard' this year to quote my husband, but I will definitely be embracing a little more of the festive spirit than I thought I would be." 6. MAKE A CHRISTMAS PLAYLIST Remember those mixtapes we used to make in the nineties? Well as we all know, all that has moved up a notch and now you can make playlists featuring your favourite songs that you can listen to wherever are you with the help of platforms like Spotify and YouTube. Music always makes us feel better, so get yourself in the festive mood by creating a playlist of your favourite Christmas classics that you just have to listen to every Christmas. 7. APPRECIATE ALL THAT'S SEASONAL Christmas only comes around once a year. Not only that but it comes and goes quicker than pizza at a frat party. So celebrate the festive season and really make the most of it. Watch those classic Christmas movies and TV specials; dance around to those iconic festive pop tunes; indulge in those goodies, and don't be shy about wishing people a merry Christmas from the milkman to the delivery guy to the supermarket cashier... why does no one do that any more? 8. HELP OUT As we all know, Christmas isn't just about stuffing yourself more than the turkey. It's a time of peace, goodwill and compassion, and that involves helping people out when they need it. Volunteering is a great idea. We may be living in Corona times but there are still organizations - shelters, food banks and refuges for example - that may still need volunteers. Check with your local organization to see if they need any help during this time. You may need to undergo training to in order to comply with current regulations in order to keep everyone safe. Furthermore there are also virtual volunteering opportunities that you can do. Check to see what opportunities are available. There are also other things you could do: delivering meals; making donations; making masks if you're a dab hand with a sewing machine; calling someone who may be alone this Christmas. 9. IT'S BEGINNING TO SMELL A LOT LIKE CHRISTMAS! Don't underestimate the power of aroma. Certain scents have the ability to enhance our moods and improve our well-being, making us feel calmer, energized, uplifted etc. and can make us feel less stressed and anxious. And scents that we associate with good times just make us feel better and more optimistic. And who couldn't do with a bit of that right now? And there are certain scents connected to the festive period that get us feeling all Christmassy! Aromas of cinnamon and ginger remind us of that wonderful tradition of baking with our families; pine conjures up images of decorated and brightly lit Christmas trees; orange and clove make us think of warming mulled wine, while frankincense and myrrh... well you can't get more Christmas than that! There are many ways you can go about filling your home with these amazing scents: reed diffusers, scented candles, cinnamon scented pine cones, simmer pots, essential oils in an oil burner... or just good old-fashioned baking! 10. GET COSY... OUTDOORS! Just because we've been told to stay indoors, doesn't mean that we can't make use of an outdoor area if we have access to one - even if it is just a balcony. And don't let the fact that it's a bit nippy stop you from stepping outside and getting some fresh, crisp air. Bundle up, grab your hot chocolate or mulled wine/cider, turn on those outdoor Christmas fairy lights, have some Christmas jazz classics in the background and enjoy. And if you have a fire pit, well now is the time to use it! Photos: Pixabay Word cloud and blog graphics: Angel Noire

There are many reasons why people decide to live abroad: work, study, love, a fresh start or just a deep desire to try something new and broaden their horizons. And while there are a great number of other benefits to living abroad, there's unfortunately also a less than fabulous side. For those of us who have lived or are living the ex-pat life, you know that it's a bit of a roller-coaster ride. On the one hand you're embarking on a new adventure; experiencing the excitement of a different way of life; a new beginning; meeting new people... But then on the other hand, becoming an ex-pat is so much more than just sailing off into the sunset with your polka-dot knotted hanky on a stick! Big moves often come with big lifestyle changes which can sometimes feel a bit unsettling and overwhelming as you try to integrate yourself into a new country. In this two part post, we take a look at the highs and lows of living in another country; hear the experiences of those who, for better or for worse have made the move and talk about ex-pat life as it really is, and look at ways to ride those highs while trying to steer clear of the lows as much as possible. In this first part, we take a look at the benefits, advantages and all the good things that life in another country has to offer. 1. LIVING THE DREAM! When we were little and we started learning about different countries at school; met someone interesting from abroad, or started watching the latest foreign import soap opera, we all at one time or another harboured aspirations to go and live in another country when we grew up. And for some of us, the dream doesn't necessarily die when we reach adulthood; it's just that real-life gets in the way. So the dream remains just that - a dream. That's why it really is an achievement when you take that step and actually go and set up home in another country. It's quite an accomplishment to be able to get your visas/permits; hop on a plane with some of your most treasured possessions; get a new job; a new place to live; make new friends, and basically start navigating a new way of life. It's a chance to get out of the rut of everyday life in the same town with the same faces. Remember you are doing what most people wish to do but never actually get round to doing, so don't forget how fortunate you are to have this opportunity and really go for it. MAKE THE MOST OF IT! Have you ever seen the look of pure wonder on a toddler's face after seeing a decorated Christmas tree for the first time? Moving to a new country means you're going to be experiencing plenty of new wonderful and amazing things whether it's the local cuisine, fashion trends, historical sites, cultural events etc. So get out there and make sure you have as many of these 'wow' moments as possible. Aim for as many cultural experiences as you can whether it's learning a new language, playing the country's national sport, or exploring your new country's arts scene. Share what you've learned/experienced with your family and friends back home. It'll give them a new perspective on life in general as well as dispel any long-held myths they may have had about your adopted country. You never know - it may inspire them to visit... or even think about going to live in another country. Most people love learning about other people's cultures so the locals might be quite intrigued by you and want to know more about where you come from. Introduce them to popular TV shows from home or invite your new friends over and cook them a traditional meal. Share your experiences with the world! Have you noticed how many expat blogs and vlogs there are out there? As an expat, you are blessed with the opportunity of experiencing life in a country different to the one you grew up in. The experiences that you have and the things that you have learned could prove invaluable to others including future expats or people who just want to have a general idea of life abroad. So find a way of documenting these experiences which you can then share with others. 2. STEPPING OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE Even the most outgoing, adventurous of people can often feel overwhelmed by relocating to another country where you have to start from scratch. Moving abroad isn't just a question of stepping out of your comfort zone — it’s often feels more like taking a big, massive leap. Through a hoop. That's flaming. Backwards! If you flunked GCSE French, the thought of having to learn another language may fill you with dread. If you never learned to drive/are a nervous driver/find owning a vehicle to be a major expense and hassle, you'll be horrified at living in a place which doesn't have a good public transport system. You'll also have to explore your new surroundings; get to grips with the work culture; register with a doctor; set up your finances... and that's all before you learn where the best places to hang out and meet people are! For those of us who aren't keen on change or don't have the biggest sense of adventure, moving abroad can be a seriously overwhelming experience. But it's amazing what you can do when you need to. A lot of people who have made the leap abroad have felt that this has boosted their confidence; enabled them to grow; has got them out of their shell, and uncovered their true potential. MAKE THE MOST OF IT! While some people like to jump in head first and go with the flow, others prefer to be well prepared. If you're the latter, be sure to do your research first so that there are no nasty surprises when you get there. As well as the necessary documents and immunizations you'll need prior to leaving - which are essential knowledge - find out whatever else you'll need to know, from food, healthcare, climate, laws, and customs to what to expect on a daily basis. Research enables you to discover where you need to compromise/work around, and what's an absolute deal breaker before you even contemplate a new life abroad. Having something to focus on and work towards will prevent those feelings of being stuck. So think of attainable goals you would like to achieve while you're out there - learning a new skill; retraining; volunteering etc. - as this will make your time in your new country more productive and give you that sense of achievement. Let's not lie - stepping out of your comfort zone isn't easy. But you don't have to do anything big and bold upon arriving. Take those all-important baby steps: find a new local coffee shop; try a different route to work; join an activity group; say hi to the regulars at your local pub... each new thing you do, no matter how small will get you used to your new environment. Every little step will help you get accustomed to your new home. And if it's something that gets you out of the house and meeting new people, that's even better. If you're unable to continue with the activities you did at home, break out of your comfort zone and try something new. Ask around or look online to see what's available. If you really feel up to pushing past your limits, why not begin your own activity group, either through the local library, meetup group, or even your place of worship. There's lots of options available and the more you do, the more you'll feel comfortable in your new surroundings. It's useful to get to know expats from other countries, and meet people who are in/have been in the same situation as you. You might find that they are a huge source of advice and support. It'd be handy to look up expat groups on social networking sites to connect with other people from around the world who might just be living on your doorstep. 3. MAKING NEW FRIENDS... AND POSSIBLY FINDING LOVE! The internet and modern day technology have made the world seem a lot smaller and now meeting people from all over the world has become a whole lot easier. And all from the comfort of your living room! But of course when you go to live in another country, you come into contact on a regular basis with people you might otherwise never have met - even in your living room while on a social media platform! Whether it's your new work colleagues who you get to know over after-work drinks; hanging out with your new neighbours, or even making friends with the guy who runs the coffee shop - it's amazing the people you'll cross paths with and you might even become lifelong friends. Or find lasting love! MAKE THE MOST OF IT: Say yes to as many invites as possible. Don't be shy! It's true that a lot of people like to keep their work life separate from their home life but if your new work lot invite you out to lunch or after work drinks, it'd be a good idea to go. It's a good way of easing yourself into a new social scene. While we know that not all neighbours are like the ones you find on Ramsay Street, if you live in the kind of neighbourhood where they all get together, have cook-outs, and generally have something of a community vibe, give it a go and try to join in. There's absolutely nothing wrong with hanging out with other expats but make sure your circle includes a lot of the locals too. Join a class or activity group to so you can meet more likeminded people. Join a dating site if it's love you're looking for. Or see what events there are for singles. 4. REINVENTING YOURSELF Moving to another country brings out a side to you you never knew existed - as well as the chance to restart your life. A lot of people who have made a new life in a new country have said that they're not the same person they were when they arrived. Moving abroad brings about a lot of changes and gives you the chance to reinvent yourself. You learn to adapt to your surroundings; pick up new skills and ways of doing things; you come out of your shell more, and really appreciate the person that you've become. MAKE THE MOST OF IT! Many people living abroad often find themselves with more time on their hands than they had at home, so use this time to do something that you've always wanted to do but didn't have the chance to when you were at home. It might be taking a class, trying a new activity, or trying to realize a long-held ambition... now is your time to put all that into action. Now is a good time to sort out bad habits. Perhaps you've moved somewhere where healthy eating and an active lifestyle is the norm, or where smoking and drinking is a bit of a no-no. This is your chance to reduce your consumption of junk food, cigarettes and alcohol (if you can't cut them out altogether) and adopt some good habits in order to make important changes to your lifestyle. If for whatever reason you need a career change, look into the possibility of retraining. Check out colleges which do the accredited courses you need to get you into your new chosen field. 5. IMMERSING YOURSELF IN A NEW CULTURE We could always learn a language at an evening class; grab a recipe from a magazine, and watch cultural festivities on TV... But what better way to understand a new culture than full cultural immersion; by going to the country and experiencing everything that it has to offer first hand? When in another country and totally immersed in the culture, you learn things that you could never get from a book or documentary. You begin to understand the nuances, different aspects, and subcultures within a particular culture. You learn what is important to certain communities and what they hold dear. Whether we like to admit it or not, most of us have presumptions and preconceptions about different countries and communities. Once you have a better understanding of other cultures and you’ve seen your preconceptions proved wrong, you’ll be careful not to be jump to assumptions so quickly in the future. Seeing how people live in another country can also give you a new perspective on life, and will enable you to incorporate these discoveries into your own life. You'll chill out more if you find yourself living in a place where the pace of life is slower and less hectic. Where there is an emphasis on a more outdoorsy lifestyle, you may become more active and nature-loving. And the issues that exist in your adopted homeland may have you developing a deeper appreciation for your own place of birth and the things you took for granted. And let's not forget being exposed to popular culture and entertainment that you might otherwise have missed out on. MAKE THE MOST OF IT: Go with an open mind and understand that things may be very different to what you're used to at home. Things that are weird/acceptable at home may be seen in a different light in your new country. Be aware of the local culture and social conventions and remember when in Rome... You have the perfect opportunity to learn and master a new language. This is a great skill and will really enable you to understand and integrate into the local culture. Try new activities and sample new cuisines. See what your new home has to offer. While it's always good to make friends with any fellow expats, remember that when it comes to understanding the ways of your adopted country, there's no better teacher than the locals, so don't shy away from including them in your social circle. Joining in with festivities is another good way to learn about the culture. So try to attend any of the events that the locals will be going to. These are often centered around a holiday or celebration with religious/cultural significance and is a good learning - not to mention fun - experience. Plus it's also a great way to meet new people. What do you love about living the expat life? Photos: Pixabay Blog graphics and word cloud: Angel Noire

We're are a few weeks into autumn now, and even though many of us are mourning the end of summer, us autumniacs (Is that even a word? Well it is now!) couldn't be more thrilled. But we know that those of us who profess our love for the cooler months are something of a rarity and not understood by sun worshippers. Lots of people feel quite low as the cooler season approaches. It's the combination of the drop in temperature; the reduced levels of sunshine; the dark evenings drawing in sooner; the rain... All these elements contribute to people feeling lethargic, unmotivated, and unenthusiastic about life. They feel that their social life tends to dwindle around this time because people don't want to go out as much. They don't want to go out as much! Then there's the constant colds that keep going around, the worries about money as Christmas is fast approaching... Is it any wonder then that autumn is about as welcome as a mouse in a cheese factory? Even though the appeal of the warmer seasons is pretty clear, life doesn't come to a standstill just because autumn has arrived. In fact there's all sorts of wonderful things to look forward to when autumn hits. The fact that the key colours of the season include gold, orange, and terracotta holds a clue - warming, cheery, and earthy... there are lots of good things to look forward to when autumn arrives, and some great experiences to enjoy. And one of the great things about autumn, is that after spending the summer constantly on the go, autumn is a great opportunity to slow down, unwind, savour the little things and take it easy. So for those of you who find the cooler months a bit of a drag, we've come up with a list of ideas to inspire and motivate you, which will hopefully have you feeling more positive and optimistic. 1. DECORATE YOUR SPACE They say a change is as good as a rest, so welcome the new season by changing things up a little. Pack away your bright, lightweight summer furnishings/decor/household items, and bring out the autumn goodies in richly textured fabrics and earthy autumnal tones in order to make some simple changes in space and decor. (L-R) Thanks to Monfocus, designedbynico, StockSnap, JamesDeMers, der-bilderknipser, StockSnap, hraine @ Pixabay First things first, and as boring as it may be, get rid of all that summer dust and grime with a thorough autumn- clean. A sparklingly clean, clutter-free environment immediately puts you in a better mood and makes you feel more relaxed. And then you can get on with the fun stuff - decorating! Welcome the new season with some doorway décor in the form of an autumn style wreath or leaf garland Swap your lightweight summer linens with heavier fabrics. Layer up with throws and cushions and turn your living room into a warm and inviting sanctuary Get warm, chunky-knit blankets on your bed, turning it into a snug haven. Always launder your bedding first even if they've been packed away. If there's anything that's seen better days, replace it. As we all know, there's nothing quite like new bedding. That's an absolute luxury in itself! If you have a fireplace, rearrange the furniture so that the fireplace is the focal point Swap your summer curtains for heavier drapes which make the room look and feel warmer Make your rooms look cozier with rugs in earthy, autumnal tones Nothing screams autumn quite like a cluster of pumpkins and gourds. So be sure to create interesting displays in your porch/doorway; corner of your sitting room; by the fireplace' hallway etc. Dot those burlap covered jars around the place 2. WARMING TO AUTUMN! For some of us, the beauty of autumn is that the colder weather is a great reason to get all comfy, snug and cozy - and who wouldn't like that! And that's one of the advantages that autumn has over summer: If it gets too cold, you just layer up! What do you do when it's too hot? Unless you live near Miami Beach, running around in a bikini is not an option! By now everyone is familiar with the Danish practice of hygge, and as autumn arrives, it's good to embrace the concept of warmth and the idea of being being snug, cosy... and content! You get to wear the kind of clothes that you don't get to wear during the warmer months: comfy, cosy sweaters , long cardis, skinny jeans, boots that keep your feet all toasty... who can wear boots in scorching hot weather? We might all love running around in flip flops throughout the warmer months but it feels so good to be back in a pair of knee-high boots! Celebrate (that's right, celebrate) the autumn season by wearing clothes that make you feel warm and comfy. Buy yourself something new that you'll look forward to wearing this autumn. Or better still - sew/knit/crochet something if you're able to. Get out your flannel pjs! It's the perfect excuse to lie around in cosy pjs, snuggled under a warm blanket, watching movies all day or reading, and drinking hot chocolate (providing it's the weekend of course!) You can absolutely wear bed socks and bring a hot water bottle to bed without feeling like someone's grandad! 3. WEATHERING THE FALL There's something so unique about the beauty of autumn: the evident change in season; the pretty colours; the crispness in the morning air; that golden glow, and the warmth that tells you that even though summer's over, it's not quite winter yet... It's been known that being out and about in natural surroundings can alleviate stress, depression and anxiety, therefore getting a big, fat dose of nature may be beneficial to your emotional well-being. So soak up the natural gorgeousness of autumn and celebrate everything that the season has to offer. There's no denying that blossom looks gorgeous in spring but there's just something naturally stunning about the simplicity of fall colours, and walking ankle-deep in fallen leaves It's great to fall asleep to the sound of falling rain Choose a day to unplug, unwind, and just enjoy the weather The crisp, cool weather makes for great walks or bike rides Go on a nature walk/hike and take pics Watch a beautiful autumn sunset Go leaf-peeping! Find out which are the best locations to see the fall colours in all its glory and go take a trip out there. Use autumn's nature: collect conquers, leaves, acorns, pinecones etc. - and make a fall wreath 4. INDULGE IN WARMING FOOD AND AUTUMN FLAVOURS! Each season brings with it certain types of food and a variety of flavours that are synonymous with that particular time of year, whether it's fresh produce or particular treats and delicacies. Not only that but certain methods of cooking also become more popular during autumn. So indulge in it all! Indulge in all the apple, pumpkin and spiced goodies that are now available Try out a new crockpot/slow cooker recipe Now is the perfect time to bake, bake, bake! No one wants to be stuck in a hot kitchen during the summer (no one wants to be stuck indoors full stop during the summer!) but autumn's great for practising your baking skills and creating baked goodies that you can share (if you're feeling generous!) The colder temperature means lots of frothy, hot drinks and seasonal beverages that autumn is famous for. Who couldn't love those wonderfully flavoured hot chocolates, teas and coffees that are available. Gingerbread, eggnog, caramel, and pumpkin spice lattes... bring it on! It ain't called comfort food for nothing and warming soups, stews and stodgy puds were made for this weather! 5. THERE'S PLENTY OF PLACES TO GO! Having an active social life is a very important aspect of personal growth and emotional well-being. During autumn and winter your social calendar might not be as hectic it is during the summer but our social life doesn't come to a stand still just because summer is over. If you think colder weather means being cooped up indoors, think again. Some of us have had our best nights out during cold and wet weather. Just think of all those mad Halloween and New Year's Eve celebrations! Furthermore autumn may be cooler than summer but it's still fairly warm so the weather shouldn't stop you from going out and doing your thang! All the best holiday celebrations - Halloween, Bonfire Night, Thanksgiving, Christmas, Valentine's Day etc. - take place during the colder parts of the year Go to a farmer's market and pick up some lovely fresh produce and freshly made goodies Go on a coffee date at the local coffee house and sample those new seasonal flavours If you're lucky enough to have a local drive-in, make use of it and see what's playing. Being snuggled up in the car with a cozy blanket, while watching a movie is an amazing experience Host a bonfire night Go to an autumn craft fair Visit a pumpkin patch... ...While you're at it, visit a corn maze too, and take a hayride. Have a go at fruit picking. Share them with family and friends, or put them to good use in a pie or crumble. If the weather is warm enough, go on an autumn picnic If you don't want to venture too far from your house you can still enjoy the crisp autumn air but creating a snug little outdoor oasis. Get some comfy chairs, lights, tealights in mason jars, lanterns, blankets, weatherproof rugs... if you have a fire pit, then you're really in business! 6. OR YOU COULD JUST STAY IN But if you do decide to stay in, there's still loads you can do. And you can invite your mates too to really make a night of it! Saturday nights with takeaways, booze, movies and mates are fab Hold a movie night over at your place. Staying in to watch a movie can be every bit as fun as going to the cinema. Get a good selection of movies that you think your friends might enjoy, and some nibbles Start a book club and have regular meetings at each other's houses. Don't forget the snacks! The cooler weather can mean that your skin and hair isn't looking it's best. So that calls for a spa night. Put together a selection of beauty treatments that your friends might like to try. Or arrange a selection of ingredients - yogurt, honey, oatmeal etc - so that everyone can whip up their own homemade face/hair masks Try out a new hobby - or devote more time to an existing one Autumn was made for arts and crafts: sewing; painting; clay modelling, knitting... take your pick! Host a games night Curl up with a good book. Nothing beats a cup of tea and a good read Start up a Come Dine With Me style supper club and go round to each other's homes to discover, who out of all your mates, is the best chef! It doesn't really matter what you do, providing you're spending time with the people you love... 7. MAKE SCENTS Certain aromas can have a positive effect on our moods, feelings and well-being, and make us feel refreshed, calm, energised and can help to promote good sleep. So if the change in season has made you feel down in the dumps, and you're experiencing a bit of an energy slump, it makes scents (hehe!) to incorporate aromas that make you feel better and improve your mood. There are lots of warming and calming autumn-associated scents that will have you feeling the season! These include: Cinnamon Pumpkin Apple Ginger Nutmeg Coffee Sage Clove Fennel Cedarwood Juniper berry Rosemary Bergamot Steer clear of any product that has that ghastly synthetic fragrance. Opt for good quality scented candles and incense sticks; essential oils, floral-scented spritzes... Oh and an aromatic bath doesn't just do wonders for you, but also makes your bathroom smell divine! You can also have a go at making your own essential oil blends to create homemade products. Light an autumn scented candle Make a simmer pot and allow the aroma to waft through your home Bake to your heart's content and get that divine aroma of home baking floating all over the house Put a few drops of essential oil on pine cones or pot pourri Use essential oil in an oil burner Spritz homemade room spray around the house Autumn-scented reed diffuser Spritz some linen spray on bedding. It might even promote a good night's sleep Make autumn scented cleaning products Create spiced citrus jars 8. LET THERE BE LIGHT! The sun sets earlier in autumn and darkness descends upon us sooner. For a lot of people this does nothing to life their spirits but there's no reason why you can't create a wonderful warming glow in and around your home: Fairy lights or string lights aren't just for Christmas, you know! Sit by a fireplace or fire pit to get warm and toasty. Candelit/fireside teas are what autumn is all about! Candles and lots of them to create that feeling of warmth and light Lanterns Pumpkins aren't just for Halloween, and can be used as lanterns all throughout autumn Luminary bags Twine balls and branches Tealights or string lights in mason jars Lights in trees 9. ENJOY THE SIMPLE THINGS There's lots of little things you can appreciate throughout autumn. Rest and allow yourself a break. Watch your fave horror flicks/cozy mysteries. Texas Chainsaw Massacre or Miss Marple, anyone? Read! It's something a lot of people say they wish they could do more of but don't have enough time for. So pay your library or local book shop a visit, and get lost in a novel Packed tubes, trains and buses are way more bearable when it's cold, so be thankful for that! Appreciate the beauty of a dark city street, after it's been raining and seeing the street lights reflected on the glistening ground. It's great news for holidaymakers and soon-to-be-marrieds as everything tends to be cheaper around this time. 10. HEALTH & WELL-BEING After being constantly on the go during the summer, things tend to slow down a bit when autumn arrives - and that's not necessarily a bad thing. So relax and take the time to chill (just not literally!) Even though you won't be getting your beach bod out for a while, it's still a good idea to keep up with your fitness regime Check in with how you're feeling and what you need Let go of what's been bothering you Create an autumn gratitude journal or chart Book yourself in for a massage Pick one bad habit that you want to work on Strive to create more balance in your life Declutter and get rid of what you don't need AND FINALLY... We know that the world is in the midst of a pandemic right now, and rules regarding socializing are forever changing. This post was written with more general times in mind, although pandemic or not, there's still tons of cool, autumn related things you can do, so enjoy! Photos: Pixabay with thanks to all image authors. Click on photo for link Blog graphics and word cloud: Angel Noire

There's something that shocks people every time I reveal it. And what is this startling piece of info? That I'm not a fan of summer! I know that's a bit of a contradiction because I'm actually a summer baby; I like warm weather, and I love the beach. So the irony that I'm not a summer lover isn’t lost on me. I don't mind the season itself - it's just that I absolutely HATE intensely hot weather. I really don't crave the heat the way some people do. I put it down to the fact that I’m a Londoner, and that the cold and the rain is what I’m used to but then I know that that doesn’t mean much as most Londoners crave the sun – mainly because we don’t usually get any! This is a girl who harboured ambitions to go and live in Australia, but if I can't cope with a summer in London, how on earth would I cope with a lifetime in Oz? I understand that to say you don’t like hot weather is like saying you don’t like chocolate, have never watched an episode of Friends or can't tell the Kardashians apart (I love chocolate, adore Friends, but um, the Kardashians...!) I’m not totally sure where my negativity regarding the hotter months comes from because I’m quite sure I loved it when I was a child.  I put it down to the fact that as I got older I became less tolerant to the sun (or maybe the sun became less tolerant towards me!) But I don’t see anything great about sweating like a spa; having your make-up slide off your face; getting headaches, heat rash … I could go on and on. Sure we get to indulge in ice-cream, barbecues, picnics, give our summer clothes an airing, and drive with the top down if we’re lucky enough to own a convertible. But I'm still not quite a summer bunny. While the herald of summer doesn't exactly fill me with dread, for the longest time, the realization that summer was fast approaching did make me feel quite low. People always used to ask me how I could feel like that when the sun's out and everything looks so bright and cheery. I think it's because with a lot of the jobs I held in the past, summer was always our busiest time, which meant that I worked longer hours than most people and booking time off to go on holiday was often quite a mission. So while everyone else was enjoying themselves, I was hard at work and I suppose I still associate that with summer. I feel the way most people do when it's Sunday evening and they know they've got work the next day. And that feeling continues all throughout summer... until autumn arrives - and I can breathe again! That's right - I am very much an autumn-bordering-on-winter kind of girl. And now that my favourite season is here, I couldn't be more thrilled. I must be the only person who doesn't feel dismayed by grey skies and I have absolutely no problem when it's pelting down with rain. I'll take autumn and winter over summer any day! When planning our wedding, the original date was to be in winter (Mr. D’s birthday to be  exact) but the reaction from our guests – who acted as though we’d just announced that our wedding was to be held in a morgue – made us reconsider. But we knew that we really didn't want a summer wedding for many reasons, so as a compromise, we held our wedding in the twilight month of September: technically summer but with a more autumn feel. Most people did not share our vision of a winter wedding.(Pixabay) But I know that I am very much in the minority - for many people, it's actually the colder seasons that create feelings of anxiety and despair, and as these seasons draw closer it's felt with a growing sense of dread which I can relate to - but for summer instead of autumn or winter! It's during these times that self-care is essential. There's lots of good things about autumn and life doesn't suddenly stop just because the sun isn't out as much or because the days are getting shorter and darker. There's lots of good things to look forward to as we reach autumn. Check out our upcoming post with lots of self-care advice and ideas of things to do to really celebrate this beautiful season. Hmm... Perhaps I should do a similar post for summer... For myself! Blog graphics: Angel Noire Photos: Pixabay

There's an in-joke among my 'girl gang' about the concept of moving on (trust me, it's a lot funnier than it sounds!) But in reality, as much as I hate to admit it, accepting change; moving on; cutting ties with the past, letting go... these aren't things I find easy to do - but I do try! I suppose it's connected to the fact that in general, I just hate goodbyes. Everyone who knows me knows I hate goodbyes. 'Goodbye' in my opinion, is the worst word in the English language. Or in any language for that matter. I saw this absolutely beautiful post on Instagram recently created by Chen Chi Sing (aka Soolooka) which was all about saying goodbye, leaving the past where it belongs and moving on. It was a very simple piece of artwork (and by simple I mean that it wasn't overly detailed with all kinds of distracting bits and bobs NOT that it was basic. It was actually very pretty) but incredibly effective and I found it to be very moving. It affected me in a very profound way, and I couldn't stop looking at the illustration. The little figures in it almost made me cry as though they were real people! I think it's because it reminded me of all the people who have walked with me through quite difficult times in my life who for one reason or another, I've had to say goodbye to even though I never wanted to. And the little hearts above the figures along with the teardrop tells us that even though walking away from the past can be liberating, it's also quite bittersweet. Our pasts are what it is: not all bad and not all good. Sometimes, it can be hard to let go... Of course it was the meaning behind the artwork that got me. Sometimes we have to say goodbye to even the positive elements and people in our past in order to go somewhere new and hopefully better. This might involve accepting that someone you love has passed away; realizing that a relationship/friendship has run its course; admitting that the town you grew up in no longer feels like home, or that the job you once loved doesn't bring you any joy or fulfilment. In these situations, it's understandable why people find it hard to move on because who wants to let go of someone/something that meant so much? But even when it's something that's bad for you, a lot of people still find it hard to let go either because they're afraid to or because they don't know how, which explains why so many people remain in unhappy relationships or jobs they now hate. Soolooka's illustration made me realize a lot of things about the concept of letting go and moving on. I don't believe that we have to wave goodbye to people or things that make us happy; give us peace, and add something important to our lives. Too many people give up things that matter just for the sake of change but I see it as throwing out the baby along with the bathwater. But that said, it is important to embrace change when it matters and let go of things and people that no longer serve us. During the course of our lives, we pick up a lot of baggage along the way, and we can be plagued by unhappy memories; bad decisions; past mistakes; childhood traumas; broken friendships and relationships... And that's before we even get to the limiting beliefs, habits, relationships and ways that no longer serve us, and we know it's not doing us any good - and yet we still hold on to them. We refuse to close the door on these things either because we're unaware that these things are not bringing us any real joy. Or perhaps we are aware but don't know how to detach ourselves from these - or we're too afraid to. It's like people who hold onto anger as a means of self-preservation. Well self-destruction might be a more suitable noun! There are just some things that need to be shown the door. Nearly four years ago I made the move from Britain to America, leaving behind my family, friends, job, and everything that was very familiar to me. I may have left but did I actually say goodbye??? The answer to that is probably no considering I've felt quite stuck since arriving to the land of opportunity where I have developed a habit of comparing everything here to things back home. There's nothing wrong with America but it just doesn't feel like home yet even after all this time. Perhaps the way to do that is to let go of beliefs and expectations that I've held on to for so long in order to move forward. I have no idea if America will be our forever home (does that make me sound like a kitten???) Maybe we'll stay, maybe we'll go back to England, or maybe we'll end up somewhere completely different - like an island just of the antarctic! But right now, this is where we are so we have to make the most of it and say goodbye to the life we had in England, for now at least, because that's what's preventing me from moving forward. It's not that I have a complete inability to let go of things and constantly dwell on the past. Over the course of my life, there have been things and people that I have had to walk away from for the sake of my sanity and a bit of peace. It wasn't an easy decision to make. In fact there were times I wanted to un-make that decision because it was the more comfortable and convenient option but I knew deep down that it wasn't the right decision. And sometimes the right option isn't always the safe option. The past is important in many ways, as it's our experiences that shape who we are, and formulate our beliefs and values. One important element from the past that does belong in our present and our future are the valuable lessons that we've learned along the way - some of them having been pretty painful. It's always important to remember what these episodes taught us in order to grow as people and improve the way in which we live. But anything that doesn't enable us to develop; holds us back; pushes us down; keeps us in a state of fear; stops us from living life to the fullest, and using our potential to the max, well - those things need to go. And fast! As you can imagine, changing the habits of a lifetime does not come easily and nor will it happen overnight. Furthermore, depending on what it is you're trying to let go of, there may be sadness and a lot of tears. But don't let this stop you from doing what will ultimately be the best thing for you. Letting go of the past isn't always as scary as you might think. There are just steps you need to take and realizations you need to make: It takes time but the first step is to admit that there is a problem: that you are not happy; life isn't going as it should, and that there are things that are holding you back that need to go. You then need to identify what these things are - toxic friendships, unfulfilling jobs etc and then make a firm commitment to yourself to sever links that are preventing you from forging ahead in life. This is where patience is important because this transformation won't happen overnight. Whether you do this as a quick sharp sever, or one bit at a time is up you. When it comes to bereavement, understand that it is NOT your loved one you are saying goodbye to. You will have your memories of them and continue to love them. Rather it's the acceptance that they are no longer physically here (but they are with you in spirit) and it's the grief and despair that you are letting go of as it's keeping you in a place of pain. Understand that not all goodbyes have to be permanent. Anyone who's an expat who knows there's a possibility of returning home or going somewhere new altogether, will get this! Not all goodbyes have to be complete and immediate. It's possible to work your way through it a bit at a time. Accept that there will be lapses along the way. Show yourself some compassion and keep going. With perseverance you'll get there, and you'll be able to firmly shut the door on the past and head towards a brighter future without fear or anxiety. Word cloud: Angel Noire

What do you do when your hair is so frazzled that it's starting to resemble a haystack on your head? What if the only apparent solution is to hack the whole lot off - but you really don't want to do that? You give it some TLC with a deep conditioning treatment is what you do! WHY SO SERIOUSLY DRY? There's a number of reasons why your hair can become parched and really tired looking: WHY DEEP CONDITIONING? Think of all the things you put your hair through: blow drying, straightening, curling, dying, bleaching, shampooing, styling - if your poor strands could speak, can you imagine what they'd be saying after being put through all that torture just so that they could rival Jennifer Anistons' or David Beckham's barnets? A deep conditioning treatment really is an important step in hair care because you're being kind to your hair and putting a lot of much-needed moisture and nutrition back into it, making it stronger, healthier and shinier. Hair that is regularly deep conditioned is less prone to breakage and frizz, softer, and more manageable. It makes your hair look and feel fantastic. WHAT'S OLIVE GOT TO DO WITH IT? Delicious when you dip your bread into it, olive oil can make your hair pretty lush too! Although there is little scientific evidence to support the belief that olive oil is beneficial to hair, it has been widely used in hair-care for thousands of years, and this use is believed to have originated in ancient Egypt (it was also a little known queen from Ancient Egypt who taught us about the use of milk in skincare but we'll leave that for another day. Cheers Cleo!) Olive oil contains the emolients that have softening properties - oleic acid, palmitic acid, and squalene. It also contains vitamin A (anti-aging) and vitamin E (antioxdant, combats dryness and scalp circulation) as well as Vitamin K (hairfall.) Olive oil is said to be especially good for those with extremely dry, thick, coarse, curly or processed hair. And while people with finer, oilier hair may find olive oil unsuitable due it weighing down the hair and making it greasier, it can still be used as a scalp treatment. Opt for extra-virgin olive oil (oh OK - EVOO!) when it comes to your hair as it's the highest-quality olive oil you can get. It's an unrefined (not treated with chemicals or heat) and is made in a way that allows the oil to retain more of the olives' nutrients. EGGS? YOU'RE YOLKING, RIGHT? Actually no. Like olive oil, nutrient-laden eggs have been used in home-made beauty treatments for yonks for sleek, shiny, strong hair. It's amazing to think that one little egg can be a powerhouse of essential vitamins, minerals and proteins, and that's why adding eggs as part of your hair care treatments - as well as including them in your diet - can revitalize the most frazzled of barnets, repairing and revitalizing those delicate strands, keeping your hair thick, healthy, and lush. The healthy fats in the yolk can help condition your hair, giving it a much needed moisture boost. It’s not just hair that benefits from eggs, as they're great for your cleansing and detoxing your scalp too. It's also believed that applying eggs to the roots of your hair can help to strengthen them, nourishing the follicles with vital nutrients, encouraging the new hair growth to be much stronger and less prone to breakage or shedding. And although it has not been put to the test by Frengellica, it's been said that regularly applying eggs to the ends of your hair reduces split ends. So if you've tried this, let us know the results! WHICH PART DO I USE? When deciding whether to use just the yolk or the whites, or both of them together, you need to take your hair type into account and what it is you are trying to achieve with regards to the condition of your hair: Egg & Olive Oil Hair Masks: 3 Ways For 3 Hair Types 1. Egg and Olive Oil Mask For: Normal/Combination Hair What it does: Conditions your hair and improves texture Maintains your scalp's oil balance Nourishes roots and hair shafts Promotes healthy hair growth. Frequency: Once a week INGREDIENTS: 1 whole egg 1 tablespoon olive oil (optional) THIS IS HOW WE DO IT: Place egg and olive oil in a bowl. Whisk together until well combined. Apply olive oil/egg mask to your hair, covering your hair completely. Leave it on for about 20 minutes. Wash your hair with cool water. Hot water will scramble the egg! Shampoo optional. Condition your hair and let it dry naturally. 2. Egg Yolk and Olive Oil Hair Mask For: Dry Hair What it does: Gives hair a moisture boost Softens hair Makes strands sleek and smooth Nourishes scalp Aids hair regrowth Frequency: 1-2 times a week INGREDIENTS: 2 egg yolks 1 tablespoon olive oil THIS IS HOW WE DO IT: Place egg yolks and olive oil in a bowl. Whisk until well combined. Apply mask to your hair, making sure your hair is completely covered. Leave it on for about 20 minutes. Wash your hair thoroughly with cool water. Shampoo optional. Condition your hair and rinse. Allow your hair to dry naturally. 3. Egg White and Olive Oil Hair Mask For: Oily Hair What it does: Conditions hair without weighing it down Maintains the oil balance. Improves your hair’s texture and volume Frequency: 1-2 times a week INGREDIENTS 2 egg whites 1 tsp. Olive oil THIS IS HOW WE DO IT: Place egg whites in a bowl with the olive oil. Whisk until you get a smooth mixture. Apply the egg white mask to your hair, making sure that your hair is completely covered. Leave on for 20 minutes. Wash your hair with cool water. Shampoo optional. Condition your hair and rinse. Allow your hair to dry naturally. If you want, you could... Warm up the olive oil a little - but just a little so that its warm to the touch. Remember you're going to add an egg to it in order to make a mask - not an omelette! Increase/reduce the amount of ingredients used. This all depends on how long, short, thick etc. your hair is. The quantities listed above are suitable for more shoulder-length hair, so you'd need to use your judgement here. Wrap your hair in cling film and a towel for the twenty minutes before you have to wash the mask off, for a more intense deep-condition. Use shampoo when washing the mask out of your hair. Generally just cool water is used and your hair is thoroughly rinsed through. But a small amount of a mild shampoo (preferably one as natural and organic as possible) is fine, especially if you're worried about not rinsing the oil out completely. Add a few drops of your fave essential oil, if you're worried about smelling like a quiche! And if it's one that's beneficial to hair that's even better. Add other ingredients. The egg and olive oil make a great base for other hair masks where you could add other ingredients such as aloe, yogurt, or honey for their moisturizing or softening properties. Voila! Great looking hair! Photos: Pixabay Blog graphics and word cloud: Angel Noire

We may be easing our way out of the lockdown but during the course of these last few months, it's pretty safe to say that 2020 will always be known as the year: We ran out of bog roll! Hand sanitizer became more valuable that gold dust We baked banana bread like our lived depended on it! In fact why there wasn't a shortage of bananas, we don't know. So as an ode to the humble banana bread loaf, we thought we'd zhuzh things up a bit and create these fabulous Triple Chocolate Banana Bread Bars. Who doesn't love the combination of chocolate and banana together? A match made in dessert heaven! Makes: 16 cake bars INGREDIENTS: 250g plain flour 130g butter, softened 100g soft brown sugar 3 ripe bananas 2 eggs, beaten 1tsp baking powder 1 tsp vanilla extract 1tsp. ground cinnamon 1tsp. ground ginger 1tsp. ground cloves 1 tsp bicarbonate of soda 50g chopped nuts (whatever you like!) 50g dark chocolate chips 30g cacao powder 50g milk chocolate chips 50ml milk 50ml condensed milk THIS IS HOW WE DO IT: Preheat oven to 160ºC. Grease and line 2 22cm x 24cm cake tins. Cream the butter and sugar together in a large mixing bowl. Mash the bananas. How smoothly you mash the depends on whether you like to find big banana chunks in your cake (we do!) Add the mashed bananas to the butter and sugar mixture. Then add the eggs, vanilla and spices. Sieve the flour, baking powder, cacao powder and bicarbonate of soda into the bowl and mix well. Add the chocolate chips, nuts and both types of milk and mix well. Spoon mixture into the cake tins. Bake in the middle shelf of oven for about 25 minsutes. Insert a skewer or knife into the middle of the cake. If it comes out clean it's ready. Take the banana bread out of the oven and allow to cool slightly. Slice into rectangles while in the tin. Remove from tin and scoff. Sharing optional. COOK'S TIP: 1. Instead of making cake bars, this mixture can be used to make loaves or muffins. Just substitute cake tins for loaf tins or muffin tray lined with muffin cases. 2. A good glug of rum can be added to the mixture. Photos: Pixabay Word cloud: Angel Noire

When you're a child, you're told stories about ghouls and goblins, and wicked witches who love to taunt the kind-hearted princess; you think zombies are only found in horror flicks, and you'll only stumble across a psycho in one of those made-for-TV thrillers. It's only as you get older and wiser, you soon discover that monsters are very much real and are indeed walking among us. But they don't have claws, green-tinged skin, warts or wear a pointy hat. Sadly these monsters look a lot like the rest of us. They look human; they sound human; they smile at us; do kind deeds; are respectable pillars of the community and are there for you in your hour of need. But then one day, when you least expect it, the mask slips, and you see them for who they really are, and dudes and dudettes, it is not a pretty sight! This is the wonderful world of the narcopath! One of the topics we felt so strongly about highlighting here at Frengellica was emotional abuse or any form of toxic, abusive behavior that falls under this term. Having known so many people - and we do mean so many - who have had the misfortune to have encountered a narcissist/sociopath/psychopath and suffered the after effects, we felt that we needed to bring this issue to the fore. So we're happy that the first post for The Mask Slipped feature is to announce the Survivor Empowerment Telesummit 2020 on 1st June - World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day (WNAAD.) #IfMyWoundsWereVisible World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day is an internationally recognized event that raises awareness of narcissistic abuse as well as providing education and resources for survivors. WNAAD was established in 2016 and now occurs on 1st June every year. It may only be four years old but WNAAD is a growing global movement and is committed to raising awareness, providing support and education, and wants to take steps towards a change in policy. What is narcissistic abuse? Many people are still a little confused as to what exactly narcissistic abuse is. Frengellica is dedicated to promoting awareness on this subject so there will more information in other posts as well as real-life stories from survivors who have managed to rebuild their lives. But simply put it's a form of psychological and emotional abuse. Unlike physical abuse which leaves visible cuts, bruises and broken bones, victims of any kind of emotional abuse wear their wounds on the inside - mentally and emotionally, hence why WNAAD came up with the hashtag, #IfMyWoundsWereVisible. That's not to say that the abuse can't later become physical but many of the abusers are often too clever, too charming and too subtle for that. Many people suffering from narcissistic abuse don't even realise that what's happening to them is a legitimate form of abuse. Somewhere down the line they may realise that something doesn't feel right but can't quite explain what and why. Family and friends will notice that something's wrong but not know what it is or even how to help. For those of us who have endured narcissistic abuse, we know just how awful, confusing and scary it is. World Narcissist Abuse Awareness Day exists to highlight the problem and raise the profile of narcissistic abuse. Thankfully more people are becoming aware of this issue but there are still plenty more who have no idea as to what narcissist abuse is; what it involves; how to spot the signs; how to help someone who may be a victim, or how to escape such a situation if you are a victim yourself. Why is it necessary to raise awareness of narcissistic abuse? Narcissistic abuse is a problem that goes by undetected until it's usually too late - but the epidemic of narcissistic abuse is escalating. But sadly there isn't enough education, campaigning or funding to tackle this subject. According to the WNAAD website, studies indicate that between 1% and 6% of the population suffer from narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) and that's just narcissists alone - this statistic does not include the other cluster B disorders. It is estimated that in a lifetime, each individual suffering from NPD will have relationships with approximately five partners, thus highlighting the enormity and grave impact of this abuse. But although we know the number of people affected by NPD is huge, it is difficult to calculate a near enough exact number. One thing that people often forget is that the narcissist isn't always a partner: it could be a parent, child, or other family member, friend, housemate, or colleague - in short, it could be anyone. Survivor Empowerment Telesummit 2020 The Survivor Empowerment Summit is a two day online summit, where speakers - mental health practitioners and leading experts on the issue - will be giving advice and sharing insights. Because the issue of narcissistic abuse is one that's very close to our hearts at Frengellica, we're delighted that people are now talking about it and awareness is being raised because it gives the narcissist less place to hide and hopefully they'll never cause pain or mental anguish to another human being again. For those of you who are interested in the Survivor Empowerment Telesummit and wish to register you can do so at www.wnaad.com Images: Stated under image Banner: Angel Noire using images from Pixabay Word cloud: Angel Noire

For us creative types, nothing makes us more content than being up to our eyes in a project - or ten! Some people might enjoy sweating it out in the gym; checking out the new releases at the local multiplex, or hiking through woodland areas but for us keen crafters, the craft room is our happy place. If we're not knee-deep in fabrics, with gluey fingers, glitter in our hair, and pieces of decoupage paper scattered about the place, then something is very wrong! There's a keen army of crafters out there that's growing bigger by the day. Which is quite surprising considering that once upon a time arts and crafts was considered old-fashioned, uncool and fuddy-duddy; something your nan would do. Now it's probably something your man would do! Many TV shows that feature arts and crafts have demonstrated that it's 'cool' to get creative. But cool or not, it's most definitely a fantastic way to unwind and destress which is just what's needed for today's hectic way of life. Not to mention the recent stress of the pandemic which has played havoc with many people's emotional well-being. For those of you whose idea of a wild time is to find as many uses as possible for odd pieces of ribbon, the following will be easy for you to relate to. 1. JUNK? NO WAY! We collect the ribbons from chocolate boxes, tissue paper from gifts, buttons and beads that have fallen off  clothes... many may regard these as waste that needs to be binned, but to craft addicts, these are bits and bobs that are bound to come in handy either now or in the future, or inspiration for a new craft project. To illustrate our point, check out florist Mandy's story: I remember taking an order from a bride who wanted flower girl baskets but had left it a little too late. I had just one weekend to come up with two baskets in a rather unusual choice of colour. So I dipped into my box of trusty oddments, - the same box that my sister always used to laugh at - and came up with tulle remnants, pieces of ribbon and a small bunch of silk flowers all in the desired colour, which I was able to divide between the two baskets and mix with other cream-coloured silks. The baskets looked great. I had one happy customer and my sister never laughed at my 'box of junk' again! 2. WORKING ON YOUR CRAFT You're too well-mannered to tell your friends what to buy you as a gift (unless they badger you of course!) but they know you so well that even though designer brands are in, they know that you would actually prefer to make the chocolates... Or candles... Or scarf... Or jewellery yourself. So what's the gift of choice for the girl (or guy) who likes putting their hands to creative good use? Sessions at a craft workshop of course! There are workshops and classes available for a variety of different crafts which last from one day for something quick and simple, to several sessions which run for a period of several weeks or even months if you really want to get stuck in. It's a really unique and thoughtful gift - just perfect for your craft-mad friend. 3. HERE'S ONE I MADE EARLIER... Likewise when you need to get a gift for your friend, you're more likely to reach for your craft box rather than your device to scour the online shopping sites. You know that there's nothing more unique than a handpainted teapot, screen printed T-shirt, beaded scarf, handmade soaps or studded leather wristband you've created yourself. As Laura says: When an old friend of ours was getting married, she didn't include a gift list so we had no idea what to get her. My husband, who's an artist, then decided to purchase a plain glass vase. He then went ahead and etched a beautiful jasmine design, complete with the bride and groom's names and the date of their wedding. It was beyond stunning - if I may say so - and my friend told me later that it was one of the most gorgeous gifts they'd received. It's deeply treasured and it reminds them of us every time they look at it - as well as their happy day of course! 4. FIX UP, LOOK SHARP! Your favourite T-shirt has a rip in it? No problem -you simply stitch it up, add some embellishments and it's as good as new. Wooden chair literally on it's last legs? Once it's been repaired, gets revamped with a brand new coat of paint in a bold colour, it looks better than ever before. Nothing ever gets thrown out because you enjoy transforming it into a work of art. 5. YOU KNOW WHERE IT'S AT! There isn't a craft store you haven't heard of, a craft book or magazine you haven't read, or a craft site you don't know about. And even when you go on holiday, forget the tourist attractions, it's the craft shops you're looking for! Claire tells us: When I first got into crafting, I used to sit at the computer for hours, finding craft sites and purchasing all kinds of wonderful items from them. A 'quick browse' around local craft stores would see me leaving with a big bag of goodies. On a visit to Edinburgh for a week long break, my husband and I came across a very quaint, little craft shop and of course, I couldn't resist going in. We left empty-handed. NOT! 6. YOU HAVE THE BASIC KNOW-HOW You're able to identify a variety of crafting tools and explain what they're used for. You know how to convert measurements with ease. You know your antique rose from your blush pink, and you can talk floristry techniques for hours. 7. WHEN OTHERS SEE AN EMPTY JAM JAR READY FOR RECYCLING... ...you see a container for a new batch of marmalade, jams, or chutneys you plan to give as gifts; a drinking glass for your homemade brew; a new candle holder in need to decoration; a storage jar for your craft bits and bobs; vessel for your new snow globe... ... That is how you think like a crafter! 8. MAGAZINES ARE THE NEW CARPET! You can barely see  the flooring in your house because it's completely covered with craft books that you can't stop purchasing or the latest craft magazines which you love flicking through for inspiration for new craft projects  and to find out what's new in the world of crafts. 9. WHY STOP AT ONE CRAFT??? A person may be known for one particular craft but that doesn't mean that they won't dabble - or even excel - at others. It's all about the art at the end of the day and us crafters have creativity in our blood. It's all about using our imaginations; developing ideas and creating something that can be enjoyed by others. So don't be surprised if your florist friend is also into balloon art, or your grandad who makes handpainted mirrors is also a dab hand at the potters' wheel. There's no end to some people's artistic talents. 10. YOU'RE A HAPPY LITTLE CRAFTER! Peter explains: Someone once told me that being a florist suited me to the ground because I was such a happy person. Well I don't know about that - I have my moments just like everyone else - but it's true that crafts, floristry in particular, really do bring out the best in me and I'm happiest when I'm getting stuck into one of my projects. This probably explains why the three years I spent at flower school were among some of the best years of my life. Not only did I learn so much but I was among like-minded people who loved getting creative and using their imagination - and boy did we have a laugh! There was the odd row but mostly we laughed! A lot of other crafters feel the same. There's nothing quite like designing and creating something beautiful yourself. And if it's admired by others, so much the better. And if you can actually make a living out of selling your crafts, then you've really hit the jackpot. Photos from Pixabay Word cloud by Angel Noire

Some of us have dry hands at the best of times. But the current pandemic situation sees us all washing our hands as though it's a matter of life and death (probably because it is a matter of life and death!) So now we have hands that are so dry, they resemble a child's paper mache project! Despite applying twice your weight in hand cream, and taking your vitamin E capsules religiously, your hands are still extremely dry, rough and look as though they're in danger of starting a fire if you rub them together! To be honest, dry hands are the least of our problems right now but it can still make people feel more than a little self-conscious. If you're one of those who feels low at the dry condition of your hands, perhaps it's time you considered hitting the bottle. The milk bottle that is! MILKY GOODNESS! There's a reason why Cleopatra used to bathe in ass's milk so the idea of using milk on your skin is definitely not a new one. But not something that's so commonly heard of nowadays, which is a pity because milk has so many great benefits for the skin: Deeply moisturizing Cleanses pores Gentle Exfoliator Fades Scars Soothes sunburn Fights Acne & Pimples Gives skin a youthful glow Skin hydrating Reduces fine lines Brightens Skin SWEET AS HONEY And when you throw honey into the mix then the party's really getting started! Honey is more than just pollen jam that tastes great on toast; it's another ingredient that's very effective for creating great looking skin, and there's a reason why it's used in a multitude of skin and hair care products. The benefits of spreading a little of the sweet liquid gold stuff on your skin are: cleansing moisturizing soothing hydrating wound healer scar fader spot treatment assists with younger looking skin And of course this soothing treatment isn't just limited to your hands. You can use it for your face, feet, elbows, knees, lips... anywhere where your skin's a bit parched, isn't looking it's best and needs a much-needed moisture boost. You can use any kind of milk or honey that you prefer. This treatment is so simple as it only uses three ingredients, so it's well worth giving it a go. MILK AND HONEY  TREATMENT FOR DRY HANDS YOU WILL NEED: 1 tbsp. honey Enough warm milk to fully submerge your hands in Pure rosewater THIS IS HOW WE DO IT: 1. Apply honey to your to both sides of your hands. If you wish you could gently warm the honey before applying it to your hands. 2. Leave for around ten minutes. 3. Then place your hands in a basin of warm milk. Remember the milk should be warm not hot. You want to revive your hands not scald them! 4. Leave them in the milk for about five minutes or until all the honey has rinsed off. 5. Once you've taken your hands out of the milk, you can either give them a super quick blast with cold water to remove the honey-milk residue (with the emphasis being on super quick.) Or  you could remove all traces of milk and honey with cotton wool soaked in rosewater. 6. Slap on lashings of good quality hand cream. 7. Use this treatment once a day for as many days as you need. HANDY HINTS AND A HEADS UP: If you have any discolouration on your hands, you might want to add a squeeze of lemon to the warm milk - but just a small squeeze (lemon juice can be harsh if you use too much but it's best to give it a miss altogether if you have sensitive skin) to speed up the brightening process. Although milk is generally safe to use on skin, if it causes spots, a rash or any other kid of irritation, you might want to stop using it. Milk is a great cleanser for sensitive skin but if your skin is ultra sensitive, it might be a good idea to give the milk a miss due to it being slightly acidic. If you're allergic to dairy, it goes without saying that you need to opt for a plant based milk, preferably oat which is known for it's moisturizing properties. People allergic to honey should not use honey on their skin. People with allergies to pollen or bees should also avoid applying honey topically. Photos from Pixabay Banners: Created by Angel Noire using Pixabay images Word cloud by Angel Noire

How could we describe this dessert? It's like thick, hot chocolate meets chocolate sauce meets chocolate fondue meets chocolate creme pot meets seriously underbaked but still deliciously gooey chocolate fondant. Hot Chocolate Lava Puddle is a bit of an unusual dessert. It's like potage. It's like a chocolate potage! Perhaps that's what we should have called it. Or warm chocolate cake batter (but without the flour!) The inspiration for this recipe came from a dessert served at a dinner party where the host called it Molten Chocolate Magic! We were given the gist of how it was made, and with a few tweaks and adjustments, we came up with Hot Chocolate Lava Puddle! At Frengellica we know the importance of healthy eating, but we also say a little bit of everything in moderation. And while some may argue that this dessert is not good for the body, most of us will declare that it's great for the soul! Here's the recipe if you'd like to try and create this little piece of chocolate heaven! Hot Chocolate Lava Puddle SERVES :6 PREP: 15 MINS COOK: 15 MINS INGREDIENTS: 50g butter 1 cup condensed milk 75g milk chocolate, broken into squares 25g dark chocolate. broken into squares 50g cocoa 1 tbsp. strong black coffee 1 tsp, Vanilla extract 2-3 tbsp treacle/honey/golden syrup/maple syrup 2 large eggs, separated 75g demerara sugar 1/2 cup clotted cream or mascarpone Whipped/Chantilly/clotted cream or mascarpone to serve THIS IS HOW WE DO IT: 1. Heat oven to 150C, Gas 2. 2. Melt butter and chocolates with condensed milk and coffee in a small pan over a low heat. 3. Remove from the heat, and stir in cocoa, syrup, vanilla extract, egg yolks and 1/2 cup cream or mascarpone until mixed well. 4. Whisk the egg whites until stiff. 5. Gradually whisk sugar into egg whites. 6. Fold egg whites into chocolate mixture. 7. Divide mixture among 6 heatproof cups or ramekins. 8. Put on a tray and bake in oven for 10-12 mins until a thin crust forms on the top. Mixture under the crust should still be runny. 9. Top each one with a large spoonful of cream or mascarpone. 10. Serve straight away! VARIATIONS This dessert is delicious as it is but there are many ways in which you can flavour it or serve it if you want to zhuzje it up a little more. Try using white chocolate instead of the milk and dark. If you're using white chocolate, omit the coffee. You could also use flavoured chocolate: mint, orange, rose, sea salt, or chilli if you're feeling brave enough! For some texture, you could add some crushed honeycomb, maltesers/whoppers, nut brittle, candied orange peel, freeze dried fruit etc. If you wish, you could substitute the vanilla extract for almond essence, peppermint extract, orange or rosewater water. Add spices like ground ginger, cinnamon or nutmeg. Serve with a selection of dippers - fruit, marshmallows, shortbread etc. - for a mini fondue-esque dessert. If you add 75g of plain flour and leave this dessert in the oven for longer, you'll get a chocolate fondant pudding. Just make sure it's still got the gooey centre! Photo: Pixabay Banner: Created by Angel Noire using Piaxabay images Word cloud: Angel Noire