I've been with my husband for well over a decade now. We all know how it is at the beginning of a new relationship. But when you've been together for a while, and there's three kids in the mix, everyone knows that things can slide a bit.
The demands of a young family, plus working on rather intense projects didn't ring out the best in us or our marriage I have to say. But we made a commitment to create more time for each other. Even if it's just movie night in the lounge when the kids are asleep. It's just our time together and it's so important to have that time to connect.
So what I'd like to know is that those of you who have been with your partners for a while now, do you still make time for date nights, and how hard/easy has it been to make the effort?
When the children were much younger, organizing dates with the hubster was always a bit tricky, especially as I didn't know many people where we were living so finding a babysitter wasn't the easiest thing in the world. We did however try to make time for each by going out on dates whenever we could. Now that both my kids are young adults, my husband and I definitely go out a lot more. Whether you're newlyweds or have been together as long as we have, it's definitely important.
We may be old and boring but that's not a good enough excuse not to have date nights! We have fur babies rather than babies of the two-legged variety but we still make sure that we find time to go out and have fun. I'd say some dates are planned but we've been known to be spontaneous every once in a while. Haha!
I do make time for regular date nights with my husband. But if I'm honest, a lot of time is spent organizing events and activities that we enjoy as a family. The children are still quite small and this time won't last forever, so I won't to make the most of it while it lasts. But of course spending good quality time with your partner is a must, so I do put a lot of effort into having one to one time with my husband.
You bet we do! My husband and me both have jobs where we have to spend a fair bit of time away from home and of course from each other. So when we are together, we really make the most of it. This could be movie night, dining out, or mini trips away. So more date weekend than date night! LOL!
Yes we do! Maybe it's not as often as we'd like. We both have jobs we love that keep us busy plus we have my stepchildren over every weekend which involves a long drive to and from our place to puck them up. But we both make time for ourselves, whether it be a walk through woodlands, dinner and a movie, or if we're really good, a weekend away! But spending quality time together is an absolute necessity as it's so easy to get bogged down with other things, important or not.
I was six months pregnant when I got married so we didn't have a lot of time to ourselves as newlyweds when it was 'just us.' We were so preoccupied with our child that we didn't really worry about things like date nights but we tended to do things as a family. Looking back of course, I see that we should have had regular date nights and things like that. The occasional weekend break even as we had lots of very reliable babysitters - ie. doting grandparents! Sadly our marriage didn't go the distance and we ended up divorcing a few years later. Not because of lack of date nights I hasten to add! Haha! But I do agree that every couple needs to have time to themselves every now and again. I've been single for quite some time now but if I do meet someone, I will definitely be making time for just the two of us.
Oh definitely, darling! Date nights are so important when you're part of a couple, especially when you're a couple who has been together for so long (round about two decades) like we have and have children. It's so important to find time for yourselves and do things that both enjoy like shared interests. We both like things like live music and outdoors activities, water sports etc. But it's not something you can do every week or so, so we do the usual thing like go to the cinema or out for a meal or drinks etc. It doesn't matter what we do as long as we have that time to ourselves.