I would say that if you didn't have such a problem with it and the issue of who was your chief bridesmaid wasn't that big a deal to you, then why not ask her. After all you were chief bridesmaid at hers so it seems fair. But there are times that doing what seems 'fair' isn't always the right thing to do. The fact that you've even asked this tells me that you'd prefer for her not to be your chief bridesmaid, and there's nothing wrong with that. Especially since you're not as pally as you used to be. Doing something purely because it's the 'right' thing to do often leads to resentment so I wouldn't recommend that. Plus there's a lot of responsibility that comes with this role and as she has a family of her own, maybe she can't give that level of commitment anyway. I would suggest talking things over with her so there's no hard feelings but yeah - ask someone else!

Hate to say this but sometimes the person judging the woman is other women! But that's not something that people like to admit to. I'm not really sure why people pick on a woman when there's often a man involved in the situation as well. Maybe it's because as the "weaker sex," we're easier to pick on? Who knows why!

I don't think you're being selfish at all. If anything it's your in-laws for their very inconsiderate behaviour. They're adults not children so they ought to know better.

I'm not engaged. Not sure I ever see that happening TBH! But I like emeralds and wouldn't mind having an emerald engagement ring. It would be a good reflection of my Irish roots I reckon! 😁💚

I'm not a parent so I don't suppose that this is a topic that I'd have to concern myself with too much. But from what I know about godparents, it's that you pick the people you consider the best for the job whether it's friends or other family members, and then after the ceremony they play a role in the child's life as they grow like a friend or mentor or something. I don't think being a godparent is much more than that to be honest. With me and my siblings, some of us have had godparents who played a fairly active role in our lives while the others haven't so you can never tell how the whole godparent choice is going to pan out in the future.

I'm one of four. I have an older brother, a younger brother, and the baby of the family is my sister who my parents will say was the very happy accident! It's weird to think that my mum was only a bit younger than me when she had her last child, and I haven't even had my first! I'm in my forties now and probably won't but it's less to do with my age and more to do with the fact that I'm just enjoying life too much! I'm very close to all my siblings though. It's how we were raised - to put family first at all times. That's not to say we haven't bickered and squabbled because of course we have. But there have been no major bust-ups as I've seen with other families so we've been very lucky like that.

Hi there Betta Daze! I suppose I should congratulate you on escaping London and living a more fulfilling life away from all the madness! I'm London born and raised, but there are times I dream of escaping as well. LOL! Well that won't be happening for a while as work and family are what's keeping me here but maybe one day...

Hello Bellisima! I'm Rozie and I'm new to this site. Like you, I've also done a fair bit of travel and it's something I enjoy very much. There's a big wide world out there so get out there and see as much of it as you can. That's what I say!

Hiya lady! Hope you're well and living your best life! If you're living somewhere where it's gloriously sunny, please send some sunshine to cold and cloudy Britain!

It's me old mucker! Hiya Donn-Donn!

Hello Angel. Brand new member here!