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Careless Houseguests - Am I Being Selfish?

Next week I'll be having some of my in-laws over to stay for a few days. I wouldn't say that my in-laws and I are besties and are super close. I don't have the same bond with them that I do with my own family, but there aren't any major issues and we do get on.


The problem is that whenever they come over they behave very carelessly and I find myself seething. For example, they leave a mountain of washing up and never offer to help (it would be different if we had a dishwasher but we don't!) they eat us out of house and home, and never ask if anyone wants the last of anything, they just gobble it up! I've taken to packing up my Emma Bridgewater bits and pieces because they've broken some of my china in the past and not even apologized. And they really…


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 Green Diamante
Green Diamante
Jul 04, 2023

Guys thank you for your responses and I'm sorry that I'm late with this. To be honest it were a complete and utter disaster! I will fill everyone in on it when I've a bit more time! Buy thanks for your advice, everyone. x

I don't like my sis in law's friendship with my husband's ex!

I'm hoping someone here can give me some helpful NON-JUDGEMENTAL advice.


I've been very happily married for five years and we have two beautiful young children. We have a great life together and I'm so proud of our little family. My husband and I also get on with each other's families. He has an older sister and a younger brother which is great because I'm an only child so it's great to have got two new siblings via my husband.


The problem is my sister in law, who is a really lovely lady, formed a friendship with my husband's ex-girlfriend a few months back. My sister in law was very honest and upfront about it. She didn't try to hide it or anything and was very sensitive towards mine and my husband's feelings which I greatly appreciate. I do get it: My husband's ex was his first proper girlfriend and…


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QueenoftheCastle
QueenoftheCastle
Apr 08, 2022

Ah, thank you everyone for your kind words. I was a little worried about the kind of comments that I'd get but you've all been really sweet so thank you.


Just to clarify, right now my sis-in-law and my husband's ex are just Facebook friends - that's how they've reconnected. As far as I know they haven't met up in person yet. If they had, I'm sure my sister-in-law would have said because she is very upfront and wouldn't go behind anyone's backs. I suppose it could happen because they were good friends at the time, plus she was very close to my eldest nephew so there's a chance she might want to see him again, and if that happens, then I suppose I'll just have to cross that bridge when i come to it. 🙄


Someone asked why I feel so threatened by her. I don't think it's 'threatened' so much as 'awkward.' If I'm honest I dread bumping into her again and having to make small talk and whatever. But I know that I don't have anything to worry about. My husband and I have been together for quite a while now. We've built a life together and a family. I suppose it's just being confronted by the ghost of girlfriend past!


And I'm so grateful that many of you have picked up on what a lovely lady my sister-in-law is as well as all my other in-laws. I really am a lucky lady because as a couple of you said, there's loads of people out there with horrible in-laws, and I'm delighted to say that I'm not one of them! 😊


Thank you all.

What do you all think about having godparents?

I was watching a Loose Women clip (for those of you who don't know Loose Women it's a British talk show) and they were talking about godparents and whether it was still considered an important role or not. And it got me thinking what other people thought.


I'm a Catholic and I come from a family of believers so naturally the role of godparents is very important to us. Both my children are baptized so obviously they have godparents too. I myself am not a godparent but if I was asked I would only do it depending on who the person was because I consider it to be a very important role even though others agree to do it but then take the role lightly. That's why I chose my children's godparents with care. People who I knew and trusted to take their responsibilities seriously.


What are everyone's thought on…

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QueenoftheCastle
QueenoftheCastle
Jul 04, 2023

I had both of my kids christened. We're not particularly religious but we thought it was a lovely thing to do for our kids. We did have to choose godparents of course, and I'm happy to say that we chose who we felt were the very best people for the job. It's like creating additional family for my children, other people who will be there to love and support them throughout their lives. I would never have picked someone just to be 'godparent for the day' or anyone I didn't think would be there for my kids as they grew up. That was what was important to me.

The Sister/Brotherhood

I only have one sibling - a younger sister who recently celebrated something of a milestone birthday. She lives on the continent and in the past we never gave it that much thought because it's not as though she was living in Australia. But then of course the pandemic occurred and the distance felt a lot greater than what it really was, and my parents and I didn't get to see her (or each other for that matter even though we're all still in the same country!) for what seemed like an eternity. It's great that we all recently got to catch up.


My sister and I have always been close and I consider her to be my best friend (hopefully she regards me as the same!)


And what about everyone here? Are you all very close to your siblings? How did you all cope not being able to see…

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QueenoftheCastle
QueenoftheCastle
Nov 03, 2022

I think I'm the only one here who's an only child! I don't think my parents ever planned it to be just me but that's the way it happened. As a child, I always wanted at least one brother or sister. But my parents always made me feel very loved and I never wanted for anything, and I don't just mean in a material sense. They always made sure I was very sociable, doing activities, joining groups and making lots of friends so that I never felt alone and I think that's been a big help as I didn't go through life always pining for a sibling. I know some people have brilliant relationships with their siblings, and then there are those who don't so I know it can go either way. But that said, I'm glad that I have two kids which means that each of my children has a sibling. As for me, well I married a man who has siblings and they're now the closest that I have to siblings myself - and I couldn't ask for better!

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